What can we do to bless others while we are ourselves in a trial? How can we be used of the Lord to aid our loved ones and aid them in aiding us?
First thought… confess your sins to your loved ones. Share with them that which is the greatest struggle you have with your sin nature. Share with them your insecurities and weaknesses and confess to them your falling short of where you would like to be. This is, after all, this is precisely what God’s grace in Paul moved him to do…
Rom 7:22ff For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being, 23 but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members. 24 Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25 Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.
Paul laid it all out there. He did not pretend to be a Spiritual superman. He gave no false pretense of “having it all together,” or of being “on top of everything.” He did not seemingly care that his weaknesses and his shortcomings were on display. Paul was deeply in trying times as he wrote Romans 7. Yet God’s grace was so rich on Paul at that time that he openly confessed his inability, his need of grace and his cry out to God was open for all to see and hear. Trials in life have a way of doing that… it humbles us. That is the kind of grace we need.
In our culture it seems that we are drawn by the world to project that we have it together that nothing phases us and that we are never in over our head or have needs. It is – when you think about it – a really arrogant thing to do. And disingenuous as well. And it cripples us and those around us. It cripples us because it closes us off from the Lord’s people who otherwise would be there for us. It is not unlike the arrogant Rambo character who takes on the enemy all by himself rather than seeking refuge in the Lord’s people at his side. In breaking rank, he exposes himself. Sure, he projects strength and courage for a moment – and the immature will say “look how amazing that guy is.” But that does not last long because – unlike Rambo movies where one guy beats 50 – in real life, the one guy gets beat down. Doing life’s trials without reference to or seeking after aid from God’s people – people placed there by God to be instruments of His grace in our lives – is foolish, selfish and self defeating. And it cripples our loved ones as well. Our loved ones who know the Lord gain wildly in serving us, ministering to us and aiding us in the Lord’s power. To never seek their aid is to deprive them of that blessing.
So… our time in trial should have a major component of our sharing our needs, our struggles and our sin – calling upon the Lord’s people for aid. We need to call them to our side and link their Armor with ours. The Lord gave us our saved loved ones as instruments of blessing to us. Confess your weaknesses and seek their aid. Humble us, Lord.